People are Amazing

Originally published 30th December 2023 on NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page

I get lots of feedback in my life that I help people feel better.

I need to make something clear. Every time someone feels better having been or worked with me, it's because they've seen, through me, that they are good, fab, just not shite like they thought they were. I've always had this gift, mostly, of people feeling better about Themselves when they have been around me.

I'm like a Metal Detector in that I find the truth inside people. If you are good and kind inside, then that shows up, for you, through being with me.

I notice People's vulnerabilities and goodness.

I also notice People's Bullshit which would register in me as a threat to my sensitivity, and I'd mostly, historically, fawn, for my protection.

I didn't realise this happened, at the time. My Bullshit radar just squashed down silently.

Knowing I'm Autistic as I do now, there's less lip service. I'm more unmasked as I unlearn being Neurotypical.

(Trying to be NeuroTypical was because of the Trauma of being harmed having to pretend to be NeuroTypical. Harmed because I had learnt not to be Me. Being Me would have not been great, back then)

Nowadays, if you go away from an interaction with me and we haven't vibed, it'll feel like a Nervous System to Nervous System clash with static noise and confusion, we'd be like opposite magnets propelling us away from each other. And that's ok.

If you go away from an interaction with me and you feel better about yourself, it's generally because you are better than you realised before.

It's because people taught you to not believe in yourself and they were wrong.

It's because life wore you down and you'd stopped having faith in yourself. And you shouldn't have.

It's because you were mistreated before, and interpreted that treatment of you as being your fault. And it wasn't.

It's because others chose to make you doubt yourself. And you needn't have.

It's because others needed to drop your Worth down, so they could feel better about themselves.

Nearly every interaction I've had with Clients has a similar Blue Print to it.

I see you/them as the Beautiful Souls you are, and I work with you until you Catch up.

I sit with my hypothetical Chisel and tap way at Life's harm and Decay, to reveal who you already are but couldn't be.

The same applies to Me. I've had People see my Worth and show Me who I am and am eternally grateful for that.

Those tiny interactions, hugs, smiles, giggles and moments, where our Souls just Spark and we Light up like Fireworks.

That's vulnerability and Honesty and Pure Love and Connection whether it's someone I've known for 2 minutes or 5 years or a Lifetime.

Don't underestimate the Power in those Moments.

It's the stuff that heals.

It's the stuff that makes Music and Art.

It's the stuff that will hopefully make the World a better Place.

Yes I'm Sensitive.

Yes I feel and Think Big.

And that's ok. That's mostly a Good Thing.

Because there's alot of Amazing People out there.

Most of you just don't know it yet.

View from behind me, me in the middle, woman, short hair, arms to the side of me. I'm dancing in my studio, outside showing through windows. Books on display. I move and regulate because thinking and feeling a lot, can be tiring. We all need Self Care.