Originally published 20th January 2026 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog Facebook Page. About to jump onto and co facilitate this month's Creative Counsellors Membership Hub   Adhd Autistic Therapist group. Our subject is Transitions. And all the tricks and strategies in the world, take 2nd stage to a supportive partner who knows my quirks, and gently ushers me along, lilipadding, with my dinner cooked, a flask of hot tea ready, a bottle of squash prepared, and a smile, nu

Originally published 20th December 2025 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog Facebook Page. I just had a mini meltdown purely because something I really wanted, happened, but unexpectedly. It took me by surprise. This good thing. The day didn't look like it was meant to. It changed things for that moment. I don't know how else to explain it but I know others like me 'get it'. Trying to vocalise my distress, whilst knowing I look unhinged, whilst knowing it could be interprete

Originally published 19th December 2025 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog Facebook Page. On my main page I've shared some exciting ventures coming up in 2026. And if I were attending these as a newbie, I would be petrified. Delivering these is scary but let me tell you a secret. Running them is easier for me than attending them. Running them means I get to plan details. I get to figure data, timing, content. And the best bit of all is I get to have a role. Facilitating it

Originally posted 17th May 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I'm not. I'm made for big hearts and big morals and big feels. The corporate world costs me dearly. It HAS cost me dearly. It took away my authenticity, it created Imposter Syndrome. I WAS an Imposter. Drop the syndrome bit. I literally was an Imposter trying to do things the rigid, stifled, 'not-always-right', 'meant-to be-right'' way. Rules and safeguarding stuff often prevents disclosure. It

Originally posted 11th June 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I think a key feature of Autistic/Adhd drive is natural motivation. I ask lots of questions because knowing 'why' is the key to me being motivated and alert (thank you Dopamine receptors aka Brain science stuff). Knowing why means I understand. If I understand and if something aligns with me, I can do it. I can do things when I understand and when the thing has purpose. Linked to this is the r

Originally posted 11th June 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page What Privileges (and I mean headstarts/ advantages) do you have? Do you know? Some of mine are below. I do not take them for granted. Life would be harder if I didn't have them. A garden. My own private home. Walking with ease. Working pattern that suits me (also a necessity but also privilege). Not actively having to care for someone all the time. I'm white. Ability to self care. Accessible E

Originally posted 5th July 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I said goodbye today to a Client. They were full of praise for me. My ego loved that feeling. And my Imposter Syndrome was grateful for an hour off duty. The difference between that blessed feeling of glory, and the reality of my awful Executive Function skills is HUGE. Below is a genuine account of how abysmal and embarrassing it 'could' be if I wasn't so self aware and transparent with prospe

Originally posted 18th July 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I'm venting. When will Schools understand that rules STOP some children learning. The Schools that are meant to create learning, have rules that stop learning. Some Schools insist that arbitrary rules must be followed to help children fit in and learn. Our ND Brains are different. Rules we believe in and understand are helpful. Rules need to have a real, genuine, purpose driven, thought throug

Originally posted 22nd July 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page Long one. Be warned . I take Adhd meds. A very low dose of speed. I only had meds for today and tomorrow. My plan was to collect a script Monday which should be ready then. I'm helping renovate my van and remembered I'd not taken meds this morning. Oh how I forget things so much. So off I trotted, took them, gulped them down, and wondered why there were no meds left in the bottle. And then I

Originally posted 11th August 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I have a National Trust  membership. Until today I hadn't realised having this was a helpful strategy to combat Executive Function decision making processes that I find hard. (Executive Function is the name for memory, ordering, processing, prioritising.) I often want to plan to go somewhere but don't know where and decision making is not my forte. Unless it's a hyperfocus in which case it's

Originally posted 27th August 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I make mistakes a lot. Timing. Forgetting stuff. Misunderstanding stuff. Rushing. Before knowing I was ADHD and Autistic, I made all these mistakes, and did everything I could to get things right. I wasn't anxious. There wasn't anything to be anxious about. I was just wrong. And I had to get stuff right. That's a pretty sh#t constant state to have been in for a very long time (50+ years). To

Originally posted 28th August 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I delayed finishing my Counselling and PsychoTherapy Training by almost 20 years. Why? Because I thought I wasn't good enough. I thought I had to be super intelligent to be a Counsellor. Somehow, I never realised that Counselling, ultimately, is about love and connection. Appropriate boundaried love. But love all the same. It was never about being academic or clever. As a youngster, I'd flun

Originally posted September 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I know I have spoken many times (IRL) about Imposter Syndrome and would have put on a huge wager that I've written in depth about it, here. I've just searched and nope, I haven't. So here are my latest thoughts about this phenomenon called Imposter Syndrome and what I think it is. Ps I've shared my blog on a Page for Autistic Researchers and feel a bit of an Imposter because I waffle and swear

Originally posted September 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Blog FaceBook page I just read a comment on another page, asking what people do when heading to Burnout. This was my answer. Physical rest so a duvet day. I contract with clients from the outset that I have random Duvet Days (I'm a Counsellor). This forewarning means I have less guilt, and less guilt tends to speed up recovery. This also allows Clients to choose not to work with me from the outset if my needs do

Originally posted 2021 This post is about 'why' you need to understand us. Our health and wellbeing is balancing on how you understand us. (More info about Masking on other posts). It is so very hard to describe our NeuroDivergence. Many peers write so well but I genuinely do not think our brain is easy to understand if not experienced. First of all, we have a spikey profile. It changes. This confuses people. Sometimes we mask, sometimes we are burnt out, and sometimes we are

Originally posted December 2021 Who do you think is ADHD? Think you can spot one? I have met new ADHD friends who have Psychology degrees, some are Social Workers, Nurses, Teachers, Life Coaches and Counsellors. Even my assessing ADHD Dr is ADHD . And of course I myself am ADHD. Responses have been mixed, ranging from: 'no, I'd never have believed it', 'oh everyone is a bit like that, I do that sometimes'. Of course, my foibles are more than sometimes and I can't switch out o

Originally posted 2021 on my NeuroDiversity University Facebook page. Today I am tired. A stressful email late last night. Not a good choice. I read it and should have 'known' to delay reading until this morning. Timing is often compromised, my impulsivity bouncing out. I then hyper-focussed on it, replying eloquently and passionately. That isn't the Awesome bit. Or rather, there is another Awesome bit. Wired up, I struggled to sleep peacefully. I was so tired but my brain bu

Originally posted 13th September 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Facebook page. None of us ever know what is needed to support Wellbeing and to thrive. None of us. No one. That may sound a bit depressing coming from me, a Counsellor. Bear with me as I explain. It is literally all guesswork and trial and error. Informed guesswork. But still guesswork. That may also sound terrifying but I would not trust anyone who declared they had the answer. No one has the answer. Every

Originally posted 24th September 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Facebook page. I'm going to say something weird and I damn hope people resonate and I'm not left out here on my own. In fact those last words say it all. Left out here on my own. During my 53 years of living I've noticed I'm absolutely sh#te at being on my own. On my own with no choice. Being on my own to rest is cool. Needed even. Being on my own is cool when someone is around nearby but even then, I need

Originally posted 11th October 2023 on my NeuroDiversity University Facebook page. I think I have Trauma responses about money. I grew up fairly poor but not neglected. Financial security is a big need of mine. Yet I also hate money. Or rather I hate the power divide where money is concerned. The inequality. It is why I offer concession spaces and also why I plan to offer a higher fee for those that can offset the concessions. I earn a lot less than people expect me to earn (