Perfectionism and RSD.

Oh I wish I had time and resources to create videos. It's on the list. I'm not asking for help for me. I'm ok .

For now I am writing about Perfectionism connected to RSD.

Not just as a Trauma response. Yes that's a thing and true. It's not what I'm writing about.

I am not slating Perfectionism as a bad thing. I do not believe it has to come from a bad place.

I want the resource I assume exists, about how we will never feel good enough because our real ability is higher than what we are achieving, because of the limitations that this commercial, neuronormative, western world allows.

Ie not feeling Good Enough is that phenomenal part of us that is constrained, squashed, denied, caged and could be so more. We are literally not good enough compared to what we could be if everything alligned. Fact.

RSD and Imposter Syndrome is the consequence of performing merely at 60% of our 100%.

Ironically, our 60% is probably good enough for Society. In fact our 60% is probably 90% on the neuronormative scale.

But the mismatch of what we could (but rarely) achieve, compared to the neuronormative 60%, is stress-inducing and uncomfortable and painful.

That's what I believe RSD and Imposter Syndrome is.

We are not good enough because we are actually so much more, if we had the chance.

So instead of those yuk feelings being a pathological worry inside of us, rather than Perfectionism being seen as Anxiety, why can't we see it as a blob of hurt because we aren't reaching our potential.

And why would we actively want/choose to lower our own Perfectionist standards anyway?

The world is hurting, people are hurting, we need more.

Balancing our awesomeness alongside the societal/energy limitations needs better handling. Our relationship with our ups and downs and our fear of being rejected because of them, needs radical acceptance.

It needs looking after and being loved.

Healing and peace, is acknowledging and grieving and being aware of our moment by moment fluctuating limitations, mostly because of neuronormative demands. It's the first step.

Second step is creating a Life where we get as damn near and close to our full potential as possible. So that we get to shine more.

For me, this is how I manage and respect my RSD and Imposter Syndrome. I lean into it. I feel the pain. Because I know why.

This way of thinking ie radical acceptance, means that the negative feelings and energy of shame/disappointment can be avoided and that energy (of fear or shame) can be used instead for better things.

So what is out there about this? I've briefly written about this before but is there any more other than my rambling thoughts?

Note to say: All humans and worthy. I'm not saying any one human is better than another. Worth is not determined by productivity.

I'm coming at this from the perspective that everyone deserves to be able to be the best/right version of them, for them. This is about our internal view of Self and the harm a negative self view can have on mental health.

Picture of a field and cloudy sky.

Jill